Fighting life at old age
What some people have to go through in life are crazy in terms of our routine burdens of having to do chores and whatnot. But imagine being old, permanently disabled and then losing your home.
I'm not saying it's the worse thing that has happened to anyone but it is definitely a bad experience for someone at that age.
A redditter by the name "GameBoiye" Shared his story and what his parents went through is sad but knowing that it's life, we have to understand that these happen. In a way it makes me scared of old age. This is not something anyone likes to go through. Listen to his story.
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don't want to live with my parents anymore. I'm 27, make really good money, and could move out whenever I want. But my parents are both permanently disabled and I pay them rent in addition to most of the bills. They're also currently in the process of fighting the banks to keep their house. If I move out everything will most likely collapse and they'll lose the house and have to move.
I also wanted to state that my parents are not disabled to the point where they need medical assistance, just to the point where they cannot maintain stable jobs in order to support themselves financially. Thanks for all the advice though, sounds like there are other people who may be in the same situation that can use it.
For my parents, the fight for the house finally came to an end where they lost the house. They could have kept it with a refinance but I guess the banks really wanted it and they continually saying they lacked certain papers after every 3-4 month process of submitting everything. They had enough income from social security, veterans benefits, food stamps, etc but the banks just would not play nice. My dad would literally send everything, fill out every piece of paper and document that they requested and submit everything. He kept proof of it all and verified with everyone every time he faxed it yet the bank would always come back with
"we didn't receive this one specific document from you so your refinance was rejected."
I believe they rejected the refinance 6-7 times for the same reason, all of which sounded illegal to me. From what I understand it is illegal and they had to get an attorney to work with them and that's where they currently are. They've technically lost the house but because it's most likely illegal how they lost it they are still fighting to try to keep it. It also doesn't help in that in the middle of this the government decided multiple times to cut off or underpay their benefits like social security or food stamps.
As for myself, I finally had to say goodbye. It wasn't easy, especially knowing that even if they can keep the house, it's probably better for them financially to move to a place that's significantly cheaper. My dad decided he is going to fight to the bitter end for the house his father built, but for me I just couldn't stay in that environment. Living for a prolonged period with money issues due to multiple different causes and the stress of losing the house was really taking a toll on both my parents. I was being emotionally dragged down every time I stepped in the house and I knew if I stayed too much longer I may not be alive today.
Last year I finally went the distance and got into a much better paying job, one that would afford me to move out while still providing a small bit of assistance. I've been out on my own now for a few months and things are really starting to look up for myself. My dad is as stubborn as ever and is still fighting for the home which I hope he does win, but the reality is that he won't and they will have to move somewhere else. I'm close by so I can help if needed but at this point I'm fully expecting my parents to have to move. I think the loss of the house is going to be a huge hit but in the end they can support themselves if they move to somewhere else much cheaper, even if it's far away.
So in the end I got a little lucky. I stayed strong and worked really hard even when I was depressed and eventually got to a place financially where I can live on my own and support them. It's not as much as when I was living there but enough for them to get by. I still feel guilty about moving out and not sticking by till the end (the end being when they're forced to leave the house and move) but it's something I can live with, and more importantly live. I feel like my real life has finally started at this point and I can only push on and hope things continue to get better.
Not the happiest ending to my story so far, but at least I'm in a much better place."
It's not a great story which has a happy ending but it's as I said earlier,life.
Do you think you'll have to go through something like this when you're old? Ever given a thought to it?
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